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900 Days of Sex

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What our sex challenge has taught us so far

I'm happy to report we are still at it.  If you have been following along with our sex challenge then you know how competitive my husband and I are and shouldn't be surprised at all that he hasn't stopped sticking it to me.  Or in me, I should say.  If you're new to my blog and a little behind on what's been going on, let me fill you in.   Back in 2019 before Covid my husband and I started a fun little challenge because we wanted to celebrate being empty nesters and didn't want to become like a lot of other stories you hear about couples growing apart after their last child leaves the nest. So we started off with 16 days of having sex every day no matter what, no excuses.  16 days may sound easy but let me tell you.... Those first 16 days were rough. There were too many times we both wanted to just skip it and go to bed and we won't even talk about the amount of skin he lost on his dick from pussy burn. or how swollen my delicious lips were.  It was ROUGH.  but we got through it and haven't stopped. 

DISCLAIMER: Before you continue indulging in my memoir, if you are prude or uptight, then stop reading this; go back to cleaning your house while tending to your crying Ivy League prodigies. Actually, just don't read any of my blogs because you will not like them, or worse, you will. But for those of you who read my blogs on the regular, call me, because we should be friends.

Let me start off by saying that this is not by any means an easy challenge.  In fact, we both agree that if we had young children living at home we wouldn't have been so successful.  Kids are exhausting.  So this challenge is NOT for everyone and honestly, we haven't met anyone else whose been able to go more than 30 days.  I eventually changed the name from Sex Challenge to Intimacy Challenge because it felt more appropriate and doable when talking about it to our friends. 

So what is a Sex/Intimacy Challenge and what does it entail and what's the difference?  Personally, for us it's simple.  He has to have his Penis inside my Vagina EVERY SINGLE DAY.  But for others who don't have the luxury of being physical every day then the Intimacy Challenge is perfect.  Intimacy Challenge is when you are just intimate in some way shape or form with your partner.  Whether that's taking a romantic shower together, reading a sexual book out loud to each other, going on a walk without kids, brushing each other's pubes, I don't fucking care.  It's just about being intimate and showing each other that the other person is the most important person in their life and you are more than just roommates trying to get through life together.  Remind each other why you got together in the first place and never take it for granted. That's what it's all about.  BEING INTIMATE.... 

A lot of our friends have asked us what we have gained in our relationship by having sex every day and if it has brought us closer together.  So this blog is going to be short and to the point and I hope that it helps you start your own type of challenge.  Remember this is YOUR relationship so you BOTH make the rules.  

During our 900 days, we have been through A LOT together, and trust me when I say there were a few times when we almost quit.  There was one night in particular when we had a pretty heated fight and he said our challenge was done.  Well, I knew he would not only regret that the next morning but somehow put the blame on me that I was the reason we quit.  The competitive "oh no you don't" side of me was not going to let that happen so I simply said, "Fine if you want to quit then we will quit but I don't want to quit and I'm ready and able, so it's 100% up to you and just remember I'm not the reason we quit, you are".  Well the competitive side of him was not going to be the reason we quit.  And here we are 900 days and counting. I knew he was just being emotional, he hadn't drank enough water and he was hungry so he was being a temporary ass hat.  If you're doing a challenge together and you know it's for great reasons then you both work hard at keeping it going.  When one wants to quit the other one doesn't let them. I can hear the therapists right now saying that this is horrible advice but It's not. 

Ok so here are a few milestones/roadblocks we encountered since the challenge has started and what we have learned.

1: Pre-Covid we traveled to France, London, and Amsterdam and pushed through international travels and jetlag.

2: While Covid was sadly hurting so many of our friends and family we figured out together how to redesign and strengthen our companies

3: We bought our first house together and dealt with the terrible stress and exhaustion of remodeling

4: We had a sad death in the family so my husband flew to the funeral and flew back home the same day so he didn't miss the challenge

5: I drove 10 hours across 3 states to see my niece graduate college and drove home within 24 hours so I didn't miss the challenge. 

6: We both had an extreme case of food poisoning that lasted 7 days and we were still able to find the energy and desire to fall asleep with his penis inside of me

7: My husband ALWAYS had the need to beat an argument with a dead horse and that always ended up continuing the next day.  Since the challenge, he has not once brought up anything the next day.  I guess him falling asleep with his penis inside of me makes his little brain tell his big brain to get over it and let it go

8: We very rarely argue and when we do it's always a calm and peaceful conversation.  We do the Oreo Cookie method.  Start with a sincere compliment, then a short verbal bitch slap, and then followed with a compliment. Try it. It works. It also keeps the fight or argument mature and respectful and the compliments are a good reminder that they are loved and appreciated. Plus you know in order to get the other person in the mood later you better not say anything you are going to regret because it WILL be your fault the challenge ended that night. 

9: My poor husband got Covid about 6 months after the vaccines and was in bad shape for 2 days with a 102 temp.  It was all on me to do ALL the work those days. Man, it was a hard job but it had to be done haha  The second night he said (Sorry baby the challenge is over, I can't get him hard, he's down for the count).  Challenge accepted.  I let my mouth do the work and 2 minutes later he was alive and willing.  

10: Every time we hit an important milestone (like every 100 days) we do something really special for each other to celebrate.  I can't wait for day 900 because we are going to paint our bodies and have sex on a canvas that we can hang above our bed.  No one else will know what the painted blob is except us.

So what did we learn throughout this challenge?  It's us against the rest of the world and no one else but us will believe us or understand the commitment we have for this.  Being intimate with your partner is extremely important.  Not only does it bring you closer but it is a constant reminder that you are wanted.  Who doesn't want to be wanted by the person they chose to spend the rest of their life with?  We have made more money since the challenge started, bought a home, and rarely fight.  As my husband says, Who has time to fight when they're fucking? 

The challenge may sound difficult but honestly, it's not at all.  The first 16 days were extremely hard but once we got past it, each day became easier and easier and now it's just our normal routine like brushing your teeth.  We don't even think about it as a task or something we HAVE to do.  It's just a normal part of ending the evening.  I do challenge you to come up with your own challenge that will be fun for you to do together.  Make up your own rules and keep changing them up.  For us, one thing we changed since we started it, is we don't have to cum every night.  As long as we fall asleep with his penis inside of me that's what matters. We call those nights, "stick it and quit it" :)  Just ending the night in an intimate moment and falling asleep where we both feel loved and wanted. That's what it's about.  

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